Time for secret gay sex for straight men fading away.

I was going to start writing an article regarding the hypocrisy of the right-wing, conservative, family values politicians that have been embroiled in sex scandal:
♦ Republican Congressman Mark Foley who was a crusader against child exploitation and child pornography (an admirable cause!) who was caught soliciting sex with underage Congressional pages,
♦ huge Republican Party supporter National Association for Evangelicals pastor who preached great hellfire against homosexuals Ted Haggard who was outed having illicit gay sex with prostitutes,
♦ Floridan Republican Congressman and proponent of marriage amendments Bob Allen and his soliciting for sex in a men’s room,
♦ Republican Louisiana Senator David Vitter who was a passionate warrior against gay rights and for marriage amendments and his being outted as a regular of prostitutes,
♦ and the recent Republican Senator Larry Craig and his arrest for soliciting sex in a men’s room.
I was going to discuss why it might be that these warriors for forcing their morality on others get caught being “immoral” while this almost never happens with liberal, progressive politicians and preachers. Is it because they set themselves up as arrogant and holier-than-thou paragons of virtue, it makes better news when they fall from their pedestal? Or, is it because in the liberal, progressive camp there’s more acceptance of different lifestyles and sexuality, where self-hating and guilt-ridden men hate the fact they may be gay and are ashamed of it protest too much and hide in the party of anti-alternate lifestyles in order to deny their true selves?

I believe I’d blogged before how I actually feel sorry for Ted Haggard. How he was probably born gay but brought up in a fundamentally religious and intolerant family and community where he grew up believing who and what he was born as is an “abomination,” so what’s he do? He has no choice in his cognitive dissonance to but to preach against homosexuality while going underground to fulfill his innate sexuality–and so it’s a tragedy what has happened to him.

But I came across this The Nation article by Richard Kim that adds a different perspective:

The GOP’s Bathroom Problem

He writes:

There’s something palpably sad to me about what happened to Allen and Craig too, something oddly touching about their misplaced faith in the fading world of secret, anonymous gay sex. That world–once found in bathrooms, parks, piers and adult bookstores; the furtive refuges of adventuresome queers, married men, the curious–has been swept away by so many police raids, privatization schemes, quality of life campaigns and internet dating services. But mostly, it’s fallen away as gays have become increasingly integrated into the mainstream, and also, paradoxically, more marked than ever. “You’re either gay or you’re not” seems to be the equation.

People who are outwardly gay or bi have found a home in the progressive political side, while those, mainly older men who grew up in the 50’s through 70’s, seeking gay sex in the only outlets there were at the time, and filled then as they are now with self-denial and resentment for who they are, side with the political party of self-denial and hyperbolic morality. They’d become used to, and may have even allowed themselves to enjoy, that closeted and secretive culture of clandestine and anonymous encounter. The bath houses, rest-stops. And then ironically, it’s been their own party of righteous busybody and intrusive morality that has created such a culture of privacy invasion and homophobia that those long-time outlets are being closed to them, becoming dangerous and unavailable.

Sad tragedy always befalls those who don’t live honestly in regards to who and what they are.

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